Archive for July, 2007

Idan Raichel to perform at Stanford

By Janet Silver Ghent
(Palo Alto Weekly)

Palo Alto, CA - The Idan Raichel Project is musical proof that Israel may be the most multicultural country in the Middle East. With Caribbean-inspired rhythms, ancient Yemenite lyrics infused with electronic beats, Hebrew prayers, Eastern European and Gypsy strains, and Amharic (Ethiopian) chants, the music blasts preconceptions of what it means to be Israeli.

While some may call it world music, that’s a term Idan Raichel avoids.

“For us, we’re doing Israeli music,” he says during a phone interview from Tel Aviv. “It’s not world music for us. It’s based on the sounds of the streets of Tel Aviv. For people outside Israel, they consider it world music. They can hear the blend, the melting pot.”

Accompanied by seven musicians and vocalists, Raichel will bring that unique Israeli blend to Stanford University’s Memorial Auditorium on Nov. 4. The event, the Idan Raichel Project’s second concert at Stanford, is supported in part by Hillel at Stanford and the Taube Center for Jewish Studies.

While the musicians’ cultures include Surinamese, Uruguayan, Georgian, Iranian and Ethiopian, all are Israeli. Raichel’s talent lies in fusing elements from a variety of traditions in a single album, sometimes within a single song.

“Mi Ma’amakim” (”Out of the Depths”) contains a counterpoint from a traditional Ethiopian song, “Nanu Nanu Ney.”

“Bo’ee” (”Come With Me”), with electronic instrumentation, features an Ethiopian chorus as well as spoken word, while “Brong Faya” (”Burn Fire”) is unabashedly Caribbean. “Ulai Ha’Pa’am (”Maybe This Time”), by contrast, is a lyrical ballad of heartbreak with a more traditionally Israeli melody line.

“A lot of their songs have been a major instrument in bringing people together,” says Samuel Alemayehu, a Stanford senior and Hillel board member from Ethiopia. Raichel, he says, gives new life to the music he grew up with in Ethiopia, taking it “to a new level, with Hebrew lyrics and modern musical instruments,” along with the traditional verses and instrumentation. After Raichel’s first album came out five years ago, it was “the first time the Ethiopian Jewish community was celebrated and highlighted in Israeli pop culture. (Now) the minority culture is getting center stage.”

Read the full story at Palo Alto Weekly

Video: Watch the Idan Raichel Project: Nanu Nanu Ney

New Wave of Ethio Bloggers

From Mik Awake’s blog: Unusually Tired

Publisher’s Note: Mik Awake is a contributing editor of Tadias Magazine. He lives in Brooklyn, New York. The following commentary is from his personal blog.

The Brain Drain in Action

I get this Ethiopian news feed on my rss, and whenever I click through I end up at this pretty suspect site called Ethioblog, which is somehow related to a fairly reputable Ethiopian news site called Nazret.com.

The articles are straightforward, if mundane; I get the feeling they pretty much run a Google news search on the word “ethiopia” or “ethiopian” and then they post the first ten links or so. Most of the time, it’s crappy stuff about Ethiopian guys in Kentucky getting arrested for robbery. But as with many sites I visit, more than the actual articles, I find that I spend more time reading the comments to them.

Can I just put this out there: there are some crazy fucking Ethiopians with internet access. You don’t believe me? Read on!

Below are excerpts from a string of comments written by various people to a single post on this Ethioblog site. I have rendered them exactly as they appear on the site, spelling mistakes, emoticons and all. Very important to keep in mind: the original post everyone’s responding to is about how a newspaper in Addis Ababa INCORRECTLY stated that 50 Cent and Janet Jackson would be performing at the heavily-anticipated millennium celebration in Ethiopia, which will occur in September of this year.

(N.B. Ethiopia runs on an ancient calendar that’s seven years behind the Western one, and Ethiopian New Year has always fallen, coincidentally, on September 11. Perhaps it’s no surprise that in recent years Ethiopians–with our swarthy, Semitic looks and our Arabic-sounding language–have tried to keep stateside celebrations on the low-low.)

What I love about the comments, which are usually written in all caps with emphatic syntax and punctuation, is the vehemence with which they all seem to be written. You get the sense that whoever wrote them was gnashing his teeth and pounding out the words on a keyboard, the space bar splitting in half. So, it’s not unusual to read a comment in response to an article, say, about Ethiopia’s Prime Minister that reads: “Death to the rotten Meles vampire and all of the Tigray tribe. Blood of their children will be drink by winners of democracy.”

Anyway, just so that this is clear, I have to repeat it. The article these comments are responding to is about how Fifty and Janet will most likely NOT (I repeat, NOT) be performing in Ethiopia.

People complain about the great brain drains that are afflicting many developing nations like Ethiopia. Sadly, after reading these, I think they might be on to something.

Sigh…

“That is what i call millenium.”

“I dought it that they will go in to their grave.”

“Go 50 cent and show them whats up for my ppl and yo will be remember forever.”

“how about country music ? that is for G”

“I heard the rapper Game and Jarule going to be there too, Fidy needs to watch his back..ain’t no Federal police going to help him.”

[Mik: Halfway down the page, where at last count there were 24 comments, a person simply identified as "Man" left a message that seemed to redeem everything that came before it. Here's what he said:]

“lol send John bolton, thats what ethios love…not 50.”

[Mik: At first, when I read this, I was thinking, Wow, that's a bit cryptic, but pretty deep. You want America to send the cantankerous Bush crony, John R. Bolton, who was the US Ambassador to the UN during the lead-up to Iraq? Are you being serious or sarcastic? Why do Ethiopians love him? Do you think Ethiopians want to give him a talking to? Do you want him to explain why he resigned in 2006 after Bush offered him another position? Please don't leave us hanging, Man!]

[Mik: Then he ruined everything by commenting again.]

Man: “I meant michael bolton…the dead singer….”

[Mik: Sigh. Regardless of what people on hold or in elevators may wish, Michael Bolton is still alive.]

“Fifty don’t risk your life in Addis. There are many angry people over there. It is going to be heavy. Heavier than New York street. We have got a lot of time bombs to waiting to pop up. Some don’t see it coming…Soda Pop. Da Da”

“who gives a dum”

“That is a good expectation.Welcom both of you for the biggest ever event in Ethiopian history, the millennium festival. I can’t wait to happen it.”

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Tadias TV: Music video of the week

Above: Hip Hop Graffiti, New York.

Publisher’s Note:

Welcome to Tadias TV! Our music video of the week highlights Teddy Yo, an emerging Ethiopian hip-hop artist. He is part of a new generation of prolific artists that are making the rounds on You Tube and other popular Ethiopian music websites, lead by Addis Live. Teddy Yo proves that hip-hop, which began 30 years ago in the South Bronx, a borough of New York City, translates to any language and any culture. His use of Amharic lyrics with sprinkles of various indigenous languages and cultural dances, makes his style organic Ethiopian. Tadias’ Music Video of the Week goes to…

Ethiopian best Amharic hip hop (You Tube)
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Wudasse Brings Jazz back Into the Ethiopian Music Scene

THE BAND

Wudasse is the brainchild of Ethiopia’s bass legend Fasil Wuhib, whose pioneering and undeniable stamp on the face of contemporary Ethiopian music, as we know it, paired perfectly with the emerging virtuoso Jorga Mesfin on sax & keyboard and Teferi Assefa, the seamless polyrhythmic drummer.

Wudasse’s debut album titled Selam (Amharic for peace) is piloted with great deft and command. Selam’s bold inroads into jazz is accomplished by the impeccable performances of Ahsa Ahla on percussion, Dale Sanders on guitar and David Bass on Baritone sax, alto sax and flute.

THE MUSIC

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Above: From left - Teferi Assefa, Jorga Mesfin, Dale Sanders, Fasil Wuhib, and Ahsa Ahla.

This is a momentous occasion after decades of stagnation in the Ethiopian music scene, during which uninspiring regurgitations of music from the “classic era” stifled creativity and left the pallets of many music lovers unfulfilled.

The last few years have witnessed a slow but steady shift in the opposite directions. Led by groups such as Wudasse and Bole 2 Harlem, this nascent revolution in Ethiopian music, towards originality and authenticity, shuns the superficial boundaries set by unauthenticated music producers perched atop a musical hierarchy with a jaundiced view of what constitutes marketable music. We will demand more!

The popularity and genius of musicians of “the classic era” as well as their contributions to Ethiopian popular music cannot be denied. The Nostalgic feelings evoked by these artists and their music, however, should not obscure the work of bands such as Wudasse, who are forging a new way forward, by returning to the originality and authenticity, which are hallmarks of the classic era.

THE ALBUM

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The arts, notably music, have always been at the frontiers and at the root of a cultural identity. Music has always been a forum where intricate negotiations occur within and between cultures. Music sets the tone for a respectable and equitable transmission of cultures. This quality enables music to create a distilled and romantic self -portrait, from a delicate collage of different cultural influences.

Selam, Wudasse’s debut album, demonstrates how this process works by using familiar Ethiopian jingles and a gentle, uninterrupted mingle with jazz, to lure the listener deeper into a far-reaching album.

Opening track, Megemeria (Amharic for the beginning), revolves around a recognizable melody, which creates a comfortable buffer zone for a pleasant musical journey. An engaging conversation between the saxophone, percussion and guitars, is the central building block of this track. The intensity of this conversation is punctuated, at key junctures, by superb virtuoso excursions of each instrument.

Title track Selam, possesses an awesome power to evoke and provoke listeners into roundtable discussions. Selam, which is sixteen minutes long, provides ample room for experimentation and lengthy virtuosos. The track fluctuates between the cadence of a serious jazz work and the relaxed, intimate atmosphere of a jam session of musicians intimately familiar with each other’s vibe.

As Jorga Mesfin on Sax and Dave Bass on Baritone flaunt their Fukera (war call) style dialogue, intruding occasionally into the discussion is the Idir trumpet used to summon the town’s attention and a major cultural bridge in this composition. Bassist Fasil Wuhib responds to the idir’s call, by coaxing chords of the spiritual beguena from his bass guitar, while simultaneously keeping a close leash on Teferi Assefa’s unbounded drumming. Midway through the composition, the flute makes an entry to warn us all about the virtues of peace, accompanied by ruminations from keyboard and percussions. The dust finally settles in a chorus of peace, Wudasse Selam!

Track four, Ete Mete, is an adaptation of a childhood song about a girl’s coming of age, in which her suitor promises to abandon his marriage and elope with her, Ete mete yelomi shita, ya sewye minalesh mata? ……tidarun feto lewsedish alegne….

This track is littered with snippets, which point to the seamless chemistry prevalent within the group on this particular endeavor. A fabulous bass line, laden with chords, and soaring lyrical phrases across bar lines by the Saxophone, beckon to more than just a casual listen.

They are an invitation to delve deeper into the meaning of this song, an exercise that, in my view, has been obscured by the mere fact of its popularity within Ethiopian society. Throughout this meditation, as guitarist Dale sanders deftly drives a slim nail into a crystal ball with precession so not to shatter the glass, the rhythm section, hindered by no such constraints, is constantly stepping on the accelerator.

Heard from the front stoops of a brownstone in Harlem, it feels very much like the crisp sounds of summer jazz, versatile enough to create room for coexistence between the upstairs neighbor’s pulsating turntables and the chorus of young girls from Ethiopia chanting, Aywesdishim tidarun feto melolegnal gasha toroon defto…

The lyrical and abstract hypnotic sounds of the Imbilta (long mono note horns), alongside that of drums, play the dual role of keeping time while making time irrelevant, in Aba Gerima a soulful pearl which tops off Wudasse’s debut album.

This album is not only a tour de force as debut albums go; it thrusts Wudasse into a distinguished group of musical innovators, noticeably absent in the Ethiopian musical orbit over the past decade.

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About the Author: Nebiyu Kebede Shawel is a writer currently residing in Harlem, New York.

The album reviewed above is available for sale on-line at cdbaby.com and additional information on the artists’ bio is available at wudasse.com

Who Will be Crowned Miss Millennium?

New York - The Ethiopian Diaspora will be given an opportunity to select the beauty “queens of the new millennium”, organisers of the Ethiopian Millennium Pageant in Addis Ababa have announced.

The organizers of the pageant have put together a voting system where viewers can vote online.

“In the first of it is kind for an Ethiopia beauty pageant, over 3500 Ethiopians in the Diaspora will be emailed links to the web site”, said the press alert sent to Tadias Magazine.

According to the press release, the contestants will vie for five titles: Miss Millennium, Miss Millennium World, Miss Millennium Tourism, Miss Millennium International, and Miss Millennium Intercontinental.

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The jury panel will include “six VIP judges” from other African countries, according to Andy Abulime, president and CEO of The Ethiopian Life Foundation, the organization that owns all the major international pageant franchises for Ethiopia.

He told the The Daily Monitor on Wednesday that the VIPs will include Nakajima Jial, Miss Tourism Sudan, Diane Mizumi, Miss Tourism DR Congo, Misel Uku, Miss Tourism Nigeria, Sibeso Nailele, Miss Tourism Zambia, and Rachel Nyameyo, Miss Tourism Kenya.

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We are happy to share that it is finally here!! We would love to send you the Print issue of our pre-millennium issue. It is the biggest and the best designed issue we have produced since the magazine was conceived four years ago. We are also happy to announce that we will be traveling to Addis to producing a special Millennium issue from Ethiopia in September. Please subscribe to Tadias for an annual payment of only $19.99. Click Here

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Queens, Spies, and Servants: A History of Ethiopian Women in Military Affairs

Above: These female war veterans are pictured in Addis
Ababa’s Menelik Square in 1973 at a ceremony to commemorate
an early victory against the Italians. Photo by Shemelis Desta
(BBC)

By Tseday Alehegn

Chronicles of war and military prowess are plentiful in Ethiopia’s historical literature. Growing up we are effortlessly taught the virtues of honor and duty, which have bestowed sovereignty to generation after generation of Ethiopians. Countless retelling of tales depicting the early and decisive victory at the battle of Adwa remain ever fresh in our proud minds and hearts; the feeling only to be outdone by the resoluteness of heroes who ended the Italian occupation of Ethiopia during the Second World War. Indeed, it is as the 17th century writer Almeida wrote of us: “In war they are reared as children, in war they grow old, or the life of all who are not farmers is war.”

The emphasis on military virtues becomes more palpable when we recognize the unique manner in which Ethiopians chose to fight off their external enemies. From earliest times, both women and men were encouraged to participate in mobilization and preparation efforts. Depicting the atmosphere during the battle of Adwa in 1896, historian G.F. Berkeley observes how the Ethiopian army was not merely organized as a segment of the population, but rather as an entire collective that had integrated the occurrence of war into its normal day-to-day activities. He points out, “It’s not an army [it is] an invasion, the transplanting of the whole people.” No one was left behind. While men served as soldiers they brought along with them their wives who in turn became involved either as civilian participants or as military combatants. What rights, titles, honors men claimed for their valor women were able to do the same.

Females were traditionally not allowed to inherit land unless the father died before the daughter married or there were no sons in the family. However, women would be able to claim property after serving in military mobilization efforts. In an uncommon way, the ability of women to participate on the warfront initiated change to their otherwise lower societal status. Not all participation in war, however, was voluntary as is clearly depicted in the following 19th century edict by the leader Ras Gugsa: “One who does not join the army of Gugsa, man and woman, will lose his genital and her breast respectively.”

Historians have estimated that an average of 20,000 to 30,000 women have participated in the campaign of Adwa alone. While the majority served in non-violent chores such as food preparation and nursing of the wounded, a significant portion served as soldiers, strategists, advisors, translators, and intelligence officers. Women from the aristocracy worked alongside maids and servants thereby breaking norms in class separation.

Female Military Strategists & Combatants:

At a time when women in most parts of the world were relegated to household chores, the number of Ethiopian women in the late 17th century participating in war expeditions against foreign aggressors was on the rise. Whereas most war decrees at this time encouraged all Ethiopians to fight occupation attempts, in 1691 Emperor Iyasu issued one of the first proclamations to curtail the rapid growth of women soldiers. The chronicles report:

“The king had the herald proclaim that the girls of the country must not ride
astride mules, because at this time these girls had adopted the practice of doing
so, tightening the belts of their shirts, covering their heads with their shammas and holding a long spear in their hand..marching in expeditions like men.”

Queen Yodit is one of the earliest-mentioned Ethiopian female leaders who fought spiritedly in battles. She successfully overthrew the powerful Aksumite kingdom, but because many churches and historically important sites were destroyed in the process her reign is infamously described as the dark era. Between 1464 and 1468, under the leadership of King Zere Yaqob, women’s expansion into political positions became more evident. Historian Richard Pankhurst notes how Zere Yaqob “established a women’s administration by appointing his daughters and relatives to key provinces.”

King Zere Yaqob’s wife, Queen Eleni, was an equally formidable and astute military strategist, and was largely responsible for the arrival in 1520 of the Portuguese as one of the first diplomatic missions. Predicting the appetite of Turks in invading Ethiopia’s coastline she proposed a joint attack strategy to the Portuguese leadership against the Egyptians and the Ottoman Turks. Sylvia Pankhurst records her letter to the Portuguese summoning a coalition. Queen Eleni is to have written:

“We have heard that the Sultan of Cairo assembles a great army to attack
your forces…against the assault of such enemies we are prepared to send
a good number of men-at-arms who will give assistance in the sea bound
areas…If you wish to arm a thousand warship we will provide the necessary
food and furnish you with everything for such a force in very great abundance.”

The Turks were soundly defeated. Years later Queen Seble Wongel was able to draw on the help of the Portuguese in defeating Ahmed Gragn’s muslim expansion into Ethiopia. In February 1543 her army fought at the battle of Woina Dega where Gragn succumbed to his death.

Harold Marcus documents Queen Worqitu’s history as the warrior queen who helped Menelik gain his crown. In 1865 Queen Worqitu of Wollo granted Menelik a safe route through her territory as the future monarch successfully escaped from King Tewodros’ prison.

The effect of her support in aiding Menelik to power is recorded in Ethiopia’s ensuing transformation from a ‘land of kings’ to a nation ruled by a ‘king of kings.’

Perhaps the most famous queen involved in military affairs is Empress Taitu, wife of Emperor Menelik II. In the battle of Adwa Empress Taitu is said to have commanded an infantry of no less than 5,000 along with 600 cavalry men and accompanied by thousands of Ethiopian women. Her strategy to cut off the invading Italian army’s water supply led to the weakening of the enemies warfront.

Following her example, Itege Menen avidly participated in battles taking places during the ‘Era of the Princes.’ Fighting against the incursion of the Egyptians, she is said to have had 20,000 soldiers under her command. Likewise, during the Italo-Ethiopian occupation, Princess Romanworq Haile Selassie upheld the tradition of women going to the battlefront and she fought alongside her husband.

Intelligence Officers, Advisors, and Translators:

Intelligence work was key in Ethiopia’s gaining the upper hand against fascist Italy and here too women played a significant role in information gathering. Through the establishment of the Central Committee of ‘Wust Arbegnoch’ (Inner Patriots) women members helped provide soldiers with intelligence information as well as arms, ammunition, food, clothing, and medicine. Sylvia Pankhurst also records how the female patriot Shewa Regged had organized an elite Ethiopian intelligence service to gather more arms while leading the Ethiopian guerilla fighters to the locale of Addis Alem to defeat an Italian fortification. Pankhurst recounts Shewa Regged’s resilience in her biography as follows:

“She was captured by the Italians and tortured by them with electricity to compel her to disclose her accomplices; despite all their cruelties, she preserved silence.”

Queen Taitu’s role as advisor is also well known. In depicting the wariness and foresight of Queen Taitu, historian R. Greenfield records her advise to Emperor Menelik and his cabinet regarding the Italian encroachment. She warns:

“Yield nothing. What you give away today will be a future ladder against your
fortress and tomorrow the Italians will come up it into your domains. If you
must lose lands lose them at least with your strong right arms.”

Her dedication and subsequent victory in preserving Ethiopia’s sovereignty won her the title “Berhane ZeEthiopia” (Light of Ethiopia). Her official seal bore this distinguished title.

In the role of translator, Princess Tsehay Haile Selassie served her country by accompanying the Emperor to the League of Nations and aiding in Ethiopia’s call for support from the International Community. The Plea falling on deaf ears the League soon dissolved as the Italians persisted on invading the last free African stronghold. Plunged into war, Empress Menen is to have asserted “Women of the world unite. Demand with one voice that we may be spared the honor of this useless bloodshed!”

Non-Combatant Efforts:

The role of women in Ethiopian military history will remain largely untold if their work as non-combatants is not recalled. It is in this position that the majority of women of the lower class contributed in strengthening Ethiopia’s defense. While some uplifted the morale of the fighting contingent through popular battle songs and poetry, others labored for the daily nourishment and overall well-being of the soldiers. The record of Ethiopia’s long-standing independence will be incomplete without the recognition of thousands of women servants who accompanied women and menfolk of the aristocracy in battle after battle. Maids and servants were responsible for the gathering and preparation of food and other administrative roles. The traveler and writer James Bruce stresses the diligence of these women during war expeditions. He writes in earnest:

“I know of no country where the female works so hard… seldom resting
till late at night, even at midnight grinding, and frequently up before
cockcrow. Tired from the march, no matter how late, water must be brought,
fuel collected, supper prepared by the soldiers’ wife…and before daylight, with
a huge load, she must march again.”

When not involved in presiding over day-to-day affairs women helped out in the clearing of roads, digging of trenches, and nursing of the wounded. In the same spirit, during the Italo-Ethiopian war, Princess Tsehay Haile Selassie helped mobilize women of all classes in efforts to provide gas masks, clothes, rations and bandages to the civilian population to protect against frequent Italian air raids and mustard gas attacks.

In commemoration of the anniversary of the Battle of Adwa, it is appropriate to recognize the achievements of Ethiopia’s women who helped in the creation of a one-of-a-kind defense system, which has successfully deterred foreign aggression not for a few years, but for thousands.

About the Author:
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Tseday Alehegn is the Editor-in-Chief of Tadias Magazine. Tseday is a graduate of Stanford University (both B.A. & M.A.). In addition to her responsibilities at Tadias, she is also a Doctoral student at Columbia University.

In a Relationship Sex is the Key

In a Relationship Sex is the Key

By Dr. Tseday Aberra

Nature has decided that men are more susceptible to sex than women. Women are blessed with taming their sexual appetites far efficiently than men. So when you ask women why they marry, they tell you it is for the affection and companionship. Men also tell you for companionship, but it is primarily for the availability of sex. Affection and companionship in a marriage includes sex for men. But I’m not so sure it is so for women.

People say marriage is difficult. Wrong. I say a husband and a wife make it difficult. Marriage is difficult for anyone who fails to understand what it means to be in one, and what it takes to make it fulfilling. It takes commitment and work, indeed, but it is certainly not difficult. At least it does not have to be.

Marriage requires understanding. It is an agreement based on an understanding between a husband and a wife. It is an entity that is created in order to give them meaning that otherwise does not exist. This meaning is completely subjective since its foundation is based on the unique agreement created by the two in the marriage. It requires both to participate and contribute willingly and completely. Otherwise, it would not exist in fulfilling form.

No one can definitely tell you what marriage is and what it is suppose to mean other than what I have just told you. You make of it what you want. The difficulty that comes with this freedom is knowing the limitations of what you can make of it. You cannot make it yours nor can he make it his. It belongs to you both. Once it is created, it has its own life and its purpose is to give you meaning. To create it, however, both of you are required to provide certain instruments that will keep it alive and fulfilling. These instruments are not negotiable. Among all of them, the most important is sex.

When a husband and wife decide to settle down, after having picked a mate of their choosing, what they do to keep each other depends on how committed they are to fulfilling the agreement. Their commitment in contributing the necessary instruments in giving life to the marriage and maintaining its viability is most crucial.

Times have changed. The 21st century has leveled the playing field so that the only thing a husband and a wife require from each other is companionship. The one element that will not be equalized, however, is a husband’s need to go to his wife for sex. Therefore, a husband comes into a marriage, having lost all his bargaining power, with a promise of one thing and one thing only: sexual companionship. A wife who is committed to her marriage ought to know the position of her husband. She ought to know his predicament. Being in a powerful position, a wife ought to know her husband is at her complete mercy. She also ought to know how she uses her power determines the vitality of the marriage.

If by some chance, a wife does not care to her husband’s needs enough and often, he will have a hard time acknowledging whether there is a relationship tailored to meet his benefits. Now remember, a husband comes into a marriage willingly, and should also be willing to give all that he has. He has volunteered to commit and participate. And in return, he expects sex. When I say all that the husband has to give, it encompasses all the instruments he contributes to create and maintain the marriage. A husband will not hold back whatever is needed to make his marriage a place of sanctity.

A wife comes into this marriage expecting affection and companionship. However, she has to come with a special instrument in particular. Yes, there are other instruments that she has to bring also, but…on a serious note…, she has to bring one thing…the IT…and the willingness to use IT and make IT available. Without going into detail what a husband brings as instruments to create and maintain a marriage because they are not as important as what the wife brings specifically, the instrument that a wife brings is by far the most essential piece of the marriage. The IT is sacred and essential. If you toy with IT, you will lose the marriage. If you hold on to IT, you will lose the marriage. If you ration IT, you will lose the marriage. Guaranteed!

Having already lost his bargaining power, a husband comes into the marriage knowing and hating to be in a position where he has to rely completely on his wife for sex. When she rations sex, a husband learns that his dear wife is conniving, selfish, mean, but most of all, untrustworthy. He realizes that his wife holds all the cards of intimacy and that she can always put him back in his place. Not as a man but as a husband, he sadly realizes that he cannot rely on her. His trust is broken.

Very often a wife forgets that her vindictive behavior leaves a scar on her husband that she cannot remedy at a later time. After a fight, there is a whole lot of “forgiving” that takes place by both, but very little of “forgetting” by the husband especially. What your husband would not forget is that one of the most crucial instruments that is required to create and maintain a fulfilling marriage is actually negotiable, and that it depends on the whimsy of a wife that he just found out to be conniving, selfish, and mean.

Let me tell you, dear wife, once such a doubt creeps into your husband, not only would you lose him, but definitely you would lose your marriage. Take it from me, there is no therapy in this world that will bring back the marriage.

Next time, before you decide to hold on to sex because you had a point to make, think a moment and realize what is REALLY at stake.

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About the Author:
Ethiopian-born, Dr. Tseday Aberra, is a Clinical and Forensic Psychologist. She has a private practice in the greater Los Angeles area and also works for the California Department of Corrections. She holds M.S. in Marriage, Family, Child Counseling and A Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology. She is recognized as an expert by California Superior Courts and gives seminars nationwide on marriage, relationships, and friendship. She has made a guest appearance on Court TV.

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Addis Ethiopian Restaurant: The Best Zilzil Tibs in the Bay

By Rebekah N. Kebede

Right across from the Taco Bell on Telegraph Avenue, on the border of Berkeley and Oakland, California, sits an inconspicuous building that looks like a local greasy-spoon diner. Do not let the appearance of Addis Ethiopian Restaurant fool you. This modest front does nothing to betray the culinary treasures within.

Foremost among aforementioned treasures at Addis Ethiopian Restaurant is the zilzil tibs, a dish consisting of strips of seasoned grilled beef. During several visits to the restaurant over the last six months, the zilzil tibs have been consistently fresh, well-seasoned and grilled “just so”: tender and juicy while still retaining the smoky flavor of the grill, yet never over-grilled or too dry. In a word— perfect. The zilzil tibs stands on its own, without condiments. Even huge awaze fans might find themselves forgoing the spicy sauce for fear of corrupting the superior flavor— To those nostalgic readers who are familiar with restaurants in Addis Ababa, the zilzil tibs at Addis Restaurant could give Samet Restaurant (in Old Airport) a run for its money—and that’s a compliment one shouldn’t take lightly.

That is not to say the rest of the dishes do not deserve mention. Indeed, they do. Among the most notable is the kitfo, which is just as authentic as any you might find in an Addis Ababa kitfo bet. Addis Restaurant also serves up the usual Ethiopian fare: there are ample vegetarian and meat dishes to choose from as well as some new variations like Doro tibs, increasingly popular in many Ethiopian restaurants across the country.

Should you need a beverage to accompany your meal, Addis serves the traditional tej honey wine as well as a variety of local and imported beers and wines. On a recent visit, one customer at a nearby table expressed unbridled enthusiasm for what he said was one of the newest beers on the drinks list, Bedele Pilsner Special. The Pilsner Special, a traditional Czech Pils (the Bedele factory was buil twith the assistance of the former Czechoslovakia), is a crisp brew that makes a good companion to most dishes, especially the richer and heavier meat dishes.

In addition to praise for stellar food, Addis gets points in the ambiance department. About a year ago, Addis’ interior décor sadly matched its unassuming exterior; it was not unpleasant, but its stark tile floors and fluorescent lighting gave the place a chilly feel. Since then, however, the restaurant has changed ownership and the interior has undergone a complete overhaul. Addis Ethiopian Restaurant now boasts a very cozy atmosphere with an earthy but stylish feel. The fluorescent lights are long gone, traded for smaller lamps providing warm, diffused light dispersed around the dining area. The dining space has also been divided by sleek bamboo screens, conveniently creating a private space for each table—a necessity now that the place seems to be packed every day of the week. If you have a medium to large sized party, you might also consider the bamboo mini-tukul with a traditional mesob in the far corner of the restaurant.

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If there are any downsides to visiting Addis, it might be that the number of dedicated Addis customers outstrips the number of spaces in its parking lot. On a recent weekday night, customers appeared to have adopted a system of double- parking their cars as the place filled up in the early evening. So next time you’re in the neighborhood, skip Taco Bell and instead head across the street to Addis to place your order, “Yo quiero zilzil tibs!”

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About the Author:

Rebekah Kebede is a freelance writer and photographer in New York City. Her work has appeared in the New Jersey Home News Tribune, India West, and Tadias Magazine. She is currently pursuing a master’s degree in journalism at Columbia University.

Marcus Samuelsson to Open an African Restaurant

New York - Building on his latest book, “The Soul of a New Cuisine: A Discovery of the Foods and Flavors of Africa” (John Wiley, 2006), Marcus Samuelsson, the executive chef of Aquavit, who was born in Ethiopia, plans to open Merkato by mid-September. The name is that of the largest food market in Addis Ababa, the capital of Ethiopia. He will offer his interpretation of dishes from all over Africa, with forays into Brazil and the Caribbean, in what had been Sascha: 55-61 Gansevoort Street (Ninth Avenue).

The African inspired 175-seat restaurant in the Meatpacking district is seeking a GENERAL MANAGER for immediate hire. Must have management experience in both service and hospitality, with excellent food & beverage knowledge, and strong financials and P+L’s required. Must be highly motivated, extremely detailed oriented, and possess great communication, organizational and supervisory skills. Computer proficiency and knowledge of Microsoft platforms necessary.

To apply, please email resumes to hr@townhouserg.com, or fax (212) 957-9043. Please note that you learned about it on Tadias.

Our interview with Marcus: Click Here.

Conversations Between Generations: The Lives of Two Ethiopian Ceramicists

Above: Mamo Tessema’s Pottery. National Archives photo Contemporary African Art Select List number 236

BY LYDIA GOBENA

Pottery has traditionally played a functional role in Ethiopian society, and ceramists have generally been seen in a less than favorable light. In fact, in certain areas, ceramics was even associated with witchcraft. Ato Mamo Tessema impacted Ethiopians’ perceptions of ceramics and ceramicist. His work became seen and continues to be seen as an art form rather than a product with a utilitarian function. Ato Mamo’s artwork and career as the founder and curator of the National Museum of Ethiopia has also had a lasting legacy on Ethiopian artists, including Sofia Temesgien Gobena. This article will discuss Ato Mamo’s influence on changing the perception of ceramists and ceramic art in Ethiopia, as well as his influence on the career of his cousin Sofia T. Gobena, who passed away in 2003. This article will further discuss how Sofia’s family is seeking to promote the notion of ceramics as an art form in Ethiopia.

Mamo Tessema

Mamo Tessema was born on August 24, 1935 in Nekemet, Wollega, Ethiopia. He graduated from Teacher’s Training School at His Imperial Majesty’s Handicraft School in Addis Ababa. After studying in Ethiopia, he went to the U.S., where he attended the Alfred University, and the New York College of Ceramics. He received his Bachelor’s of Fine Arts and Masters of Fine Arts from Alfred. At Alfred, Ato Mamo’s studies were not limited to ceramic design, he also studied wood carving, painting, sculpture, welding, graphics, lithography, photography, furniture design, and history of art, among other things. Thus, Ato Mamo’s studies provided him with a well-rounded background in art, which is reflected by his artwork.

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Above:Temesgien Gobena (left) and Mamo Tessema (right).

Ato Mamo’s work has been exhibited in a number of locations including at the: Alfred Guild at the State College of Ceramics; 1961 UNESCO exhibit; Temple Emanu-El in Yonkers, New York; Washington Heights branch of the New York Public Library; Hampton Institute and Commercial Museum in Philadelphia. The latter five exhibitions were done through the assistance and/or sponsorship of Harmon Foundation, which during its existence from 1922 to 1967, played an instrumental role in promoting the awareness of African art in the U.S. Ato Mamo has also exhibited his work in other countries, including in Ethiopia.

After returning from studying in the U.S., Ato Mamo became well-known as a ceramist. This resulted in Ethiopians beginning to appreciate ceramics as an art form. To this day, when Ethiopians think of ceramics as an art form, Ato Mamo immediately comes to mind.

Ato Mamo also taught at the Handicraft School after his return to Ethiopia. Ato Mamo further embarked on the ambitious and worthy project of establishing the Ethiopian National Museum, the fi rst museum in the country. Among the purposes of the Museum were to demonstrate the illustrious art and culture of Ethiopia to visitors, and to educate Ethiopian children about their rich history. As the founder and curator of the museum, Ato Mamo traveled throughout the globe, presenting Ethiopian artifacts to the world.

It can be said that his influence is felt by many now, when one travels through the bustling art scene in Ethiopia. There seems to be a greater appreciation of artwork as new private galleries are opened. Ato Mamo saw the importance of Ethiopian art and history, and the need to archive it. For this Ethiopians should be grateful.

Sofia T. Gobena

Sofia Temesgien Gobena was born in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, on August 18, 1964. She came to the United States of America in July 1972 with her parents, Abebetch B. and Temesgien Gobena. She received her Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology from Antioch College in Ohio, and a Master of Arts in ceramics and glass from the University of Wisconsin at Madison. She also completed her work for her Master of Fine Arts at the University of Wisconsin. Sofia unexpectedly passed away at the age of 38, though in her short life she was a prolific creator.

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Above: Ceramic Art of Sofia Gobena

To learn about ceramics in Ethiopia, Sofia visited one of the traditional ceramics producing stations. Sofia’s art professors and colleagues described her artistic abilities as transcendent and the kind of talent that comes around perhaps once a decade.

Although Sofia’s life was brief, she was a prodigious artist, leaving behind numerous paintings, sculptures, glasswork, and ceramic pieces that are testaments to the beauty of her creative spirit. While some of this work had previously been seen during her Master of Arts show that was held in Madison, Wisconsin, her artwork received greater exposure at an art show that was held on June 18-20, 2004, in Washington, D.C. at the WorldSpace Corporation. The art show was put together by her family, with the assistance of Mamo Tessema.

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Above: Sofia Gobena’s art opening at World Space Center, Washington, D.C.

Sofia’s influences in ceramics were the well-known U.S. ceramicists Peter Voulkos and Daniel Rhodes. Mamo Tessema was also an important influence in Sofia’s art. The Sofia T. Gobena Foundation was established in Sofia’s memory. (See www.sofiatgobena.org). The purpose of the foundation is to distribute funds to educational institutions in the United States and abroad that support and encourage the promotion of ceramic arts. Contributions have already been made to the Addis Ababa University Art Department to develop a ceramics department.

In sum, Mamo Tessema’s art work and legacy as the founder of the Ethiopian National Museum has had a significant influence on Ethiopia and artists. One such artist was Sofi a T. Gobena, in whose name a foundation was established to promote the ceramic arts.

About the Author:
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Lydia Gobena, sister of Sofia T. Gobena and a cousin to Ato Mamo Tessema, is a trademark attorney (Partner, Fross Zelnick Lehrman & Zissu – one of the top intellectual property law firms in the world) and a jewelry artist based in New York City.

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